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Random thoughts for today:

Elle is a stupid name. It's pretentious & basically comes off as, "my parents thought it would be cool to give me a French name, but they obviously don't speak French". Cause really? If you were French, would you name your daughter "her"? I mean its a pronoun for crying out loud! This random thought was brought to you in equal parts by Greg TBF and Legally Blonde 2: Red, White & Blonde.

Infidelity is in the air...

* Rory slept with her ex, the now MARRIED Dean on Gilmore Girls last night.

* Jackie O is on the cover of this month's Vanity Fair & the blurbs about the article (which I really need to get to) include, "and how she dealt with all his other women"

* I heard Sting's new song Stolen Car for the first time today on the radio

Now this calls three players (The Man, The Woman, and The Other Woman) and two basic questions to mind....

A. Why does the man cheat to begin with?

2. Who ends up in the power position? (As far as the women go)

I mean these days if a woman knows her man is cheating we tend to look at her with scorn or pity & wonder why she isn't strong enough to leave him. But when you look at someone like Jackie... was it worth it for her? Bearing the private disappointment to wear the public crown? Could she smile at Marilyn, thinking all the while that she would never be anything more than his whore, knowing full well that he could never leave her & the children? And what of his extra-curricular women? Did they sit there and smile at her smugly, thinking "you fool, I'm fucking your husband"? And was that enough for them? Or did they resent her... knowing full well that he couldn't ever leave her and the children... oh, it's a vicious circle and everyone's bound to get hurt - which pretty much brings us back to the first question...

Why would he cheat to begin with? (let's assume that he loves his wife) There are countless articles, books, songs, movies even on the topic - everyone thinks they have an answer, but really no one does. Not even the men themselves. But it happens all the time - I've seen it happen to friends, strangers, relatives, young, old... it's enough to make a single girl wonder why she's knocking her self out trying to find a man in the first place I won't burden you with my personal theory on why men cheat - as really, not being one, I can only surmise what's going on in their heads... but I will share my favorite explanation from one of my favorite movies of all time:
"Why do men chase women?
"Well, there's a Bible story... God... God took a rib from Adam and made Eve. Now maybe men chase women to get the rib back. When God took the rib, he left a big hole there, where there used to be something. And the women have that. Now maybe, just maybe, a man isn't complete as a man without a woman."
"But why would a man need more than one woman? "
"I don't know. Maybe because he fears death."

It almost seems to nice of an answer though doesn't it? Like it somehow excuses the behavior... oh, he fears death, he wants to fell younger or alive or what have you & get gets this by pursuing someone new But you know what? In the movie, they go on to say, "I just want you to know that no matter what you do, you're still gonna die." - which is true, so for a logical man, wouldn't that bring us back to square one again? Eh. this though process is too much for my brain at the moment. I just can't get my head around it... for me its just different. When I'm in love, I'm in love. Period. End of Story. No one else is going to turn my head, I don't want to hop in bed with anyone else... the thoughts aren't even entertained - and really? That's the way I think it should be. Even under the strongest of temptations - your love should be the thing that stops you. And for me? If I don't have that resolve, then I'm no longer in love and it's time to move on.

Wow. I went on about that for much longer than I'd planned... this is what you get when I start to let my brain do cartwheels... lol. There was something else I meant to talk about today... what was it? OH. lol.

I asked boyD to go to the wedding! He didn't say yes... but he didn't say no either. He was actually very sweet about the whole thing. It seems that he may be headed out of town for that weekend... but he's not sure yet and so I'm to keep him updated and he' to keep me updated and of course I will keep YOU updated and we'll all see what happens. lol. Again, it's very sweet of him to want to help me out and we ::heart:: him for that.


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May. 20th, 2004 08:59 am (UTC)
moooooonstruck!!! woo-hoo! in addition to that being one of my favorite movies of all time, the line you quoted about fearing death is also one of my favorite lines delivered by one of my favorite characters in the movie.
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